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Sunday, May 21, 2017

Freedom of womankind

Though it was formally banned in December 1829, under the Bengal Presidency by Lord William Bentinck; the free India still holds its deeper roots in many districts of India. With the revelation of partially burnt body of 50-yr old Usha, in Latur district in Marathwada region of Maharashtra; the speculation of Sati practice still holds true. Though Police has denied the fact if it was sati practice or if the clothes might have caught fire. Within hours of Tukaram’s funeral, Usha (50) had gone missing on April 1, 2015; after the last rites were performed on her husband. Killari Police in Latur district had then registered a case of sudden death.

Similar case had been found for Roopkuvarba Kanwar, aged just 18; of a Rajput woman who was sacrificed at Deorala village of Sikar district in Rajasthan. She had been married merely for eight months at the time of her husband’s death. Few news reported that her death was voluntary while few claims that she was forced to her death. Although a much publicized later investigation led to the arrest of people (nearly 45) present at the ceremony wherein all the eleven accused were later acquitted by the special court.

Sati (also called suttee) is nearly obsolete Hindu funeral custom or practice, where a recently widowed woman either voluntarily or by use of force or coercion commits suicide as a result of her husband's death. The literal meaning of Sati is “a pure and virtuous woman”. It was associated with a kind of virtue, where it was nothing more than shameful social act and an evil practice. This may have been banned lawfully though it holds its profound roots in mind of the free India.
Is this the Free India that has been fantasized off? Have we really travelled far or have we really moved a bit in terms of our perceptions, thinking and mindset for women? Are all the so called rules, norms and guidelines have been set for the Women clan?

We believe in equality of Men and Women or Girl and Boy and then still in 2016, a pregnant woman got acid-attacked by her in laws after the news of having a girl child in Nellore, Andhra Pradesh (September 2, year 2016); while a four-month old girl Mahika’s tiny body had 17 stab wounds with throat slated by knife, later found inside an unused air-conditioner, motionless covered in a blanket in Jaipur (August26, year 2016).

Have we dreamt of India having equal male and female sex ratio or a country struggling for female’s survival over males; and we ironically call it as “Mother India”.
We still donate our girls in Marriage in the custom of “Kanyadaan”; We still accumulate gold right from their birth to be sold in the custom of exorbitant dowry at the later stage. We celebrate the birth of male child and believe in bathing in holy river Ganges after daughter’s marriage, as if it was a cumbersome task to be fulfilled. A girl has to sacrifice her individuality, independence, dreams and her life just to be the Ideal ‘bahu’ post marriage.

Even today, the male dominating or the patriarchal set up prevails in major parts of the country. Man is still considered to be superior which is easily inveterate with the celebration of birth of a male child and danger that a girl child holds even in her mother’s womb. The male-controlled set up where the man is believed to be superior has much to do with the condition of women in our country. According to CSO's 2012 report, female child population in the age group of 0-6 years was 78.83 million in 2001 which declined to 75.84 million in 2011 which has resulted in a skewed child sex ratio. This alarming change in child sex ratio can be attributed to sex selective abortion which is rampant in India despite laws prohibiting it along with the belief that it is only the son who can perform the last rites, and the lineage and inheritance runs through the male child.

Although it’s not as worsen as in the earlier part of century and we have really came far by traversing a long distance from the days when they were tied only in the household chores and were not even allowed to step out of their homes. Though a real progress would be achieved on the day, when a girl would feel safe to travel at any time, any place without being judged for her dressing sense, righteous intentions, behavior; as we still have to break ourselves free from vicious grips of social, economic, political, caste and gender-based discrimination.

Not sure if this was the India that has been dreamt of? If this is the freedom, any girl would have thought of. Are we actually free or still welded by our prejudices, inhibitions, customs and the regulations that we are just blindly following since ages.

Thursday, August 6, 2015

कुछ तो बता

कुछ तो बता ऐ ज़िन्दगी
कुछ मेरी सुन
कुछ अपनी सुना ऐ ज़िन्दगी 

कुछ तो बता ज़िन्दगी 
है कहाँ तू मशरूफ़.... ऐ ज़िन्दगी 

कभी दे अपने घर का पता ऐ ज़िन्दगी 
बैठे करें कहीं कभी गुफ़तगू ऐ ज़िन्दगी 

कभी कुछ वक़्त हमारे साथ भी बिता ...ऐ ज़िन्दगी 

कुछ अपनी सुना 
कुछ हमारी भी सुन ऐ ज़िन्दगी 

छोड़ के कभी इन 
फलसफों और फसानों को 
इस कश्मकश में कभी 
खुद का खुद से तार्रुफ़ करा...ऐ ज़िन्दगी 

कुछ तो बता ऐ ज़िन्दगी....

Tuesday, June 23, 2015

Socially Habituated

“I will bathe in Ganges once my daughter gets married”. That’s the latest ideology I came across with.

Seriously…. I mean Seriously? Are we still in the same old world norms or do we have the developed mindsets that we proclaim.

I mean I have no qualms or I do not say that bathing in Ganges is bad, my only point is why it has to be followed this way. Is marrying your daughter such a big liability or do you still believe having a boy over girl can fetch you heaven?

C’mmon are we really living in 21st century or we still moved ahead just for the heck of it and we are still standing at the same place.

The cute little girl of ours who spend a lifetime of memories in her parents’ house, is just being donated on one fine day in a ritual named as “Kanyadaan”, stating you do not belong to here in the same manner now.

We say we have changed and we are changing. Are we not just tied up in the social customs willingly or unwillingly?

The much prayed and sought after son may abandon you in the Old age, though we will still not leave a speck of option to have a male child. And then we keep on believing in the entire lifetime that he will be the one whom we can cling to, in our old age; although he might be having the dreams of being in another world of freedom otherwise.

Wednesday, April 29, 2015

Beautiful Life!


“You know you have done something right, if someone smiles and just asks to be with you for little longer.”
That was a cute request that I received last Saturday, from a six year old girl. It was one of those days that made me realize that my life is something beyond my corporate struggles and has a brighter side to it.
The blossoming buds in the Udayan Care, gave me a different perspective of life to ponder upon. The happy faces whom I met for the very first time, welcomed me with such a bright smile that it is still alive in my mind. They might be less privileged in a way, though they have the abundance of love and respect to offer.
Beautiful girls with positive outlook towards the life. I won’t call them the destitute ones, despite of being orphan or abandoned ones; they have no such qualms, and have indeed a lot to offer.
They made me realize - Life is indeed beautiful and what I crib about is not worthy!
I spent nearly four hours with them where we had fun with the subject that I loathe most. And that was the very first time I realize that you can play around with numbers and have fun.
After having fun with hundreds and thousands, we clicked few pictures for the intact memories and I walked away with the feeling of contentment and the realization that “Life is too short to keep grudges and just live it to the fullest".


Monday, August 11, 2014

The Tarnished Charmer


There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls. - George Carlin

The black hushed beauty, amidst those shining stars bedazzled the complete horizon. Spectacle to the naked eyes, it mesmerized her and swept the floor over her feet. Brimmed with the marks, he was standing tall in that black night, so she was with those long curls.

The immaculate beauty of her was toned-down by his emblematic persona. She could not flout his presence and leave without noticing him.

The night was dark and starry, mystifying from all the possible corners. The elucidating charm he had was just a reflection of her serenity. The tranquility he had in his eyes, sedated her ever wavering mind.

Semblance of ‘Moon’ to her gloomy and leaden night,
Brought the comfort & solace to her desolate and mournful state.



Friday, June 27, 2014

Rest in Peace


Have been awake for so long
I just want to snooze now

Have been running for so long
I just want to stay for now

Wrangling and Squabbling it is
Just want it to appease now
           
Have been awake for so long
I just want to doze off now

Drifting thoughts have no place to hide
Wandering me is tired of stride

Have been awake for so long
I just want to nod off now

Obscure is my vision for so long
I just want to identify it now

Vulnerable I have been for so long
I just want to give back to this world now

Uncertain and Indecisive for so long
I just want it to placate now

Wounds have been open for so long
I just want it to conciliate now

Have been awake for so long
I just want to Rest In Peace now

Wednesday, April 16, 2014

Life Beyond


Rational or Irrational
Sometimes it goes beyond
However irrational it is
Sometimes seems rational

Logical or Illogical
Sometimes it goes afar
However logical it is
Sometimes seems illogical
                              
Sanity or Insanity
Sometimes it goes beyond
However lunatic it is
Sometimes it seems sane

It’s the unremitting squabble
Upshot of the sudden emotions
Fight between heart and wits
Clash of senseless and sensible

Yeah it is ridiculous, yeah it is absurd
Captivating the futileness
Sometimes you just capitulate
Just justifying that you’re still human

Thursday, April 10, 2014

What If?




What if I think less?
That will give me more reasons to concentrate on goodness

What if I worry less?
That will give me more reasons to take pleasure in

What if I speak less?
That will give me more reasons to hear thoughts

What if I crib less?
That will give me more reasons to acknowledge good

What if I whine less?
That will show me, Sun is still shining on a part of my life

What if I cry less?
That will show me, smiles are still more beautiful

What if I presume less?
That will justify, understandings are still finer than misunderstandings

What if I take things for granted less?
That will justify, Gratitude can heal complex relationships

What if I die less?
That will justify, Life is indeed beautiful, however difficult it enfold.

Freedom of womankind

Though it was formally banned in December 1829, under the Bengal Presidency by Lord William Bentinck; the free India still holds its deeper...